the smoothest shit you will ever hear in your life

Zo! & Monica Blaire rep so hard for Detroit Soul in this one...that is all.

there is no magic in your wand

I hear a million justifications for the inability of (certain) men to be honest in relationships. 

"There's no pussy like no pussy."

"A man is always gonna want to fuck other women."

"For every beautiful woman, there's a man who's tired of fucking her."

Phonte--whom I greatly respect as an artist and a man--even says the same on his latest cd "Charity Starts At Home."  My male friends recite these facts over and over again, to explain their wandering eyes, lack of fidelity, fear of commitment and why we as women must accept this.  Some men get all pseudo-historical with it, citing the history of humankind and the prevalence of polygamy in ancient and non-western societies.

they reduce us to pussy, and themselves to brainless dicks void of integrity.

Now I'm not saying monogamy is "right".  Nor do I think it is perfectly synonymous with commitment. 

but come the fuck on.

we don't think about other men????

  do they think their girlfriends' "love" for them blinds them to the length or girth they lack?  or if he's mr. mandingo does he think a big stick alone will keep his woman's mind from wandering?  

FELLAS:

that special thing you do...with your tongue. or when you're face deep, humming.  or rotate your hips, toss salad, pinch, bite, kiss, suck, flip us over, long stroke, switch angles, refer to yourself as 'daddy' and want us to do the same, tell us how juicy it is, kissing us on our "spots" that you've worked so hard to find, asking whose is it, the smacking, the gripping...all that shit...that you think makes you soooooooooo amazing in bed.  all that shit that a new bitch will find exciting b/c she hasn't seen the same show 500 times. it gets old.

it doesn't matter how big your dick is.  someone else's is bigger. longer. wider. faster. harder. etc.  and if you're a small fry and you think you're compensating for it with your 'head game' you're lying to yourself.  

if you can go for 3 hours there's another guy that can keep a chick in a constant state of orgasm for 6 hours.  ***i'm just talkin bout what i know.***

you pride yourself on "beating it up" and how loud your chick's moans are, but there's another nigga that understands your girl wants to be in control sometimes and lets her dominate him, and there's another nigga that intuitively knows how to alternate, and ANOTHER nigga that can get your chick to do freaky shit she would NEVER EVER do with you, and another nigga who is never too tired to give her some, and takes joy in putting HER to sleep.

there's another nigga whose foreplay is so on point that he can give her multiple orgasms while they're both still fully clothed, and another nigga that "got it like that" and doesn't have to do shit but whip it out and she's already wet.  there's a nigga whose dick is so pretty she fantasizes about just looking at it, holding it, putting her mouth on it...a dude whose mouth feels like heaven, a dude who loves the taste of her crack, the feel of his tongue in her mouth, her hair between his fingers, her toes in his mouth, his balls between her thighs.  there's a guy she's taken off work or driven hundreds of miles just to fuck.  there's a guy who thinks she's "the best he's ever had" and will never be a stranger...he doesn't give a fuck that y'all live together, are married, what children y'all have, or how much you love her.  there are men who make her feel like she is the sexiest bitch alive even in sweats, flip-flops, and a ponytail.  there are men who never have to ask if she came or how many times.

there's a man who was the 1st man to ever show her she could thoroughly enjoy sex. the 1st guy to bring her to orgasm. 

and there are an infinite number of men who can fuck your girl and satisfy her more than you ever could.  period.

but it's not all about sex.

there's a man she loved just as much as she loves you if not more.  there's a man whose children she wanted to have before she had yours.  there's a man right now waiting for you to fuck up, so he can take her off your hands.

 no matter how fly you are, there's someone flyer will fuck your girl, be her friend, spend his money, or even fall in love with her as soon as the opportunity presents itself.  there's a man who understands her more than you do.  there's a man who makes her laugh, who think she's beautiful, brilliant, sexy, hilarious, and exciting.  there's a man who stimulates her and enjoys her conversations, and cares about the intimate details of her life.  

there's a man who's never disappointed her, never cheated on her, never insulted her, never hurt her, never argued with her over dumb shit, never pushed her away, never taken her for granted, never abused her, never made her feel like less than she was worth, never lied to her, never raised his voice at her, never made her feel insecure or that her feelings weren't important, never broken her heart.  

if she's faithful he may be an old friend she hasn't spoken to in years, an ex she let go, or he may be a man that she has purposely kept herself from engaging or even meeting b/c she's with you.  and she may not want him.  but he's there. and there are many of him.  

and no matter how committed she is to you, she thinks that maybe this man  whose stories and jokes she's never heard, is a man whose interest in her is genuine, who wants to give as much as he takes, who thinks she's beautiful and will say so, thinks her dreams are important, would be proud to call her his own, understands that relationships require effort to maintain, and wants to make her happy in and out of the sack and realizes that his commitment is to HER, not her pussy.

and there's another man. he may be a dog, player.  he might not have shit going for him but a 6 pac, pretty teeth, and the ability to fuck the shit out of her.  he may be honest or he may play games, but either way he knows his role and he performs it well.  and if you piss her off she might respond to a text.  call him.  have dinner.  she might end up face down, ass up while he licks whipped cream off her cheeks. 

but she stays with YOUR ass.  not because you have a "magic stick".  not because of your looks, how successful or how much of a "catch" (you think) you are.  not because of your jokes, intelligence, your money, your education, your talent or how "real" you keep it.  

she's with you because she sees some un-nameable thing in you that makes her love you. whether that love lasts for ever or just a while, she's made a commitment to you.  and it's not perfect.  but you aren't either.  and there are millions of imperfect niggas just LIKE you out there, and some are just like you but better/freakier/richer/more emotionally stable/with bigger dicks,  but you are the ONE person she chose to be with.  and it is a CHOICE.

 it's not fate, it's not your "swag".  it's a DECISION she made to look past your faults and her own, & consciously be with you.  to make your relationship a major factor in her life.  to care about you.  to look good for you.  to please you in whatever ways possible.  to trust you enough to tell you her needs, and when they aren't being met.

this is not a men vs. women thing.  but if men think they have the monopoly on getting bored fucking the same person for too long, y'all have shit irrevocably fucked up.  

for every "good man" there's a woman who's tired of his dick AND his bullshit.